Something Awesome is afoot.

Dear loyal readers (and those of you who I force to read my blog), I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about my dating blog and I’ve come to the realization that I’m ready for a change.  I have decided to expand the depth and breadth of what I write about on the blog. … Continue reading

How we define ourselves

I was talking to a friend earlier today about “what defines us.”  I had recently done an exercise with a pie chart and the things that factor into our self esteem – both things that are uplifting and things that bring us down.  My pie chart depicted a lot of pieces, but one of the largest … Continue reading

Taking Care of Oneself

When I said goodbye to my colleagues at my job, I told them that for once in my life, I was putting myself first.  I was unhappy and knew that I needed a fresh start in order to be my best possible self for my next job opportunity. So, in the meanwhile, I am filling … Continue reading

New Chapter

After many bumps in the road, I made the decision to resign from my job and focus my efforts on finding a place that is rewarding and makes me happy.  A small part of me is nervous, but more so, I feel liberated, empowered, and excited about what’s next in my life.  I’ve already been … Continue reading

When do you make it official?

We’ve all been here, right?  You’re in limbo with the girl or guy you’re dating.  You’ve been out on several dates and you’re wondering – is it exclusive?  Are we dating other people?  There’s a hilarious scene in the movie Trainwreck where Amy Schumer’s character – Amy – is dating this guy and he tells her he … Continue reading


While I was on vacation this past week, the popular dating website Ashley Madison was hacked.  Hackers said that they’d release the contact info of those who use it unless the site shut down.  Back in 2012, I blogged about this website.  While I know people on it, it’s not my thing.  It’s one of … Continue reading

I’ve Lost that Lovin’ Feeling

I’m in a dating rut.  Between working my full-time job and taking on a part-time job and volunteering on some weekends & evenings, I have given myself little time to think about or pursue a dating life. It’s self preservation, really.  It’s easier to pour oneself into work than to date.  Dating sometimes feel like … Continue reading

Aging Gracefully?

On Friday night I was volunteering for a young adult event, sitting at the registration table between two college interns aged 21 and 20.  I’m 40.  First, I realized quickly I was old enough to be their (very young) mother.  And that made me feel uneasy. They assured me I didn’t “look 40.”  Super sweet but … Continue reading


Recently I attended a discussion with an author, Jon Ronson, about his recent book, So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed.  It’s a fascinating read on the use – or should I say, abuse – of social media to pounce on someone for writing a stupid or silly or even misinterpreted comment on FB, Twitter, etc. I think … Continue reading

Tonight, Tonight.

Recently, I told you about my breakup with Tinder because they were charging people older than 30 for their premium service. Now there is some competition brewing with the website, How About We, and their “tonight” feature.  I just read about it in an Observer article.  It goes beyond the constant swiping and matches you … Continue reading


At my day job, I am a fundraiser for a super cool nonprofit that supports kids with special needs.  One of the things I love about my job is what we do a lot of reading for professional development.  Most recently, we’ve read Daring Greatly by Brene Brown.  I’ve been really impacted by this book … Continue reading

Buh-Bye Tinder

A few weeks ago, Tinder released to the press that they will be charging $10 more a month for their new premium service if you are over the age of 30.  Their rationale?  People over 30 can afford it. Bah, nice excuse.  They’re simple trying to get rid of us older people.  If they wanted … Continue reading

Fooey, winter! Go out and meet people!

It’s early March.  By the looks of it here in Boston, winter is never going to end.  Let’s face it, winter is a tough time to meet someone.  Most of us want to stay indoors as much as possible to avoid frostbite (unless you count my nephew who thrives in the outdoors 24/7/365).  I don’t … Continue reading


I don’t know what to write but I know I need to write. On my way home from work, my current therapist called me to tell me that my previous therapist, Sherifa, who had been battling stage 4 lung cancer, passed away on Sunday.  Even before she could get the words out, I knew what … Continue reading

50 Shades of Whatever

I did not read any of the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy nor did I see the film that opened up on Valentine’s Day weekend.  And I have no interest in reading or viewing this tale of man, woman, and their bondage. Listen, I love a great romance movie.  Rom coms are my guilty pleasure. … Continue reading


It’s been a while, loyal readers.  I’ve missed you.  Hoping you missed me too! I wanted to write a post to let you know that on Friday, I’m heading out on my latest and (maybe?) greatest singles cruise!  You know I love cruising with the singles, and the anticipation of the vacation is almost as … Continue reading

Milestones and Reflection

Several milestones have occurred, or are coming up in my life.  Time for reflection, I suppose. 1.  On Friday, I turned 40.  After my initial freakout, I relaxed and embraced joining a new decade.  It was a great celebratory weekend, including visits from my parents, high school and college friends, former colleagues, you name it. … Continue reading

It only takes one.

Sometimes I forget that in a sea of available men, you only really need one to make you happy. It’s been a while since I’ve dated.  I broke up with someone a while back and then jumped, 150%, into a work project that completed shortly before Thanksgiving.  I didn’t see any of my friends during … Continue reading

This is (almost) 40.

In 2 hours, it will be December 1st.  It will then be officially my birthday month, a few weeks before I turn 40.  Honestly, I feel numb to it.  I mean, I keep saying that I’m almost 40, but the reality is, I cannot believe I’m going to be 40.  When you’re in your 20s, … Continue reading

NYC, I’m about to be in you!

It’s Friday night, nearly 9pm, and I’m finally packed and ready to hunker down with a bottle of lavender polish and the next episode of the Gilmore Girls in my Netflix queue.  Honestly, this is a glorious way to spend this particular Friday night.  Why, you ask?  Well, I’ll tell you!  I’m heading out tomorrow … Continue reading